Being gay in America has its challenges. Not as many as before but enough for us to keep fighting our own government for nationwide equality.

I believe in this fight, but unfortunately I believe that there are few a flaws in the community I identify with. Before we carry out movements that advocate for equality, we must first practice equality ourselves.

As a gay individual, I’ve had fellow colleagues tell me that they “don’t date Latinos.” That they prefer “muscular white men.” The most uncomfortable one that dating apps like Tinder and Grindr showcase is, “not into blacks.”

“Preferences” like these contribute to internalized homophobia and racism. Let’s be real here. You may argue that preferences are just something that many humans have, but in the grand schemes of things, this is something that should not be practiced if we wish to fight for equality, especially with gay men.

What type of environment perpetuates skin color and body type as a defining factor of likeness and attractiveness?

Do we forget that body-shaming has caused people to commit suicide? Do we forget that segregation was something we fought against because skin color should not play a role on how you are seen as a person?

Gay America is very privileged compared to many other nations. We have progressed in the sense that our government now acknowledges our marriages and that is way more than other countries have.

I also think that Gay America is selfish. Rather than being so prone to fighting each other in our country, which has come a long way in the acceptance of the gay community (and still has plenty more work to do), we should look out for our worldwide brothers and sisters.

For many, fighting the battle here at home is more important but is it top priority? We are steps ahead in the progression of gay rights than many other countries. You can’t change the minds of many that oppose the gay rights overnight. It takes time, patience and talking. These three things are just a few components that other countries lack, causing them to progress little.

The reason I use this example is to show how much better we have it here at home. We have the freedom to marry. The freedom to hold hands in public. The freedom to kiss. The freedom to show affection.

So next time you turn down someone because of their skin color look at yourself and your actions. Are you practicing the equality that you preach? Are you practicing what our gay forefathers fought for? No, you aren’t.

Right now the United States of America may not be perfect, but it’s for sure better than other countries.

Right now racism exists, but I urge you that you don’t let it taint the gay community.

Right now you should think about what is working for you and look what isn’t working for others across the world.

Right now you should be very aware that every action you take is a domino effect that can make or break lives of many.

Treasure your rights. Stop internalized homophobia.

Overall, be a critical thinker, think about what you are fighting for and make sure that you aren’t contradicting yourself.